“If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.” Mother Teresa
Dear Scared Parent,
“How can I possibly protect my child?” This is the question scared parents are asking as coverage of the 27th school shooting of 2022 unfolds. While others debate politics, parents just want to know, “What is going on—and, how do I keep my child safe?”
As parents, we feel so small. So inadequate. So unprepared for a world where our child may sit beside their killer in the classroom or at the lunch table. Where just running with them into the grocery for a gallon of milk could mean they don’t come out. Where people get into a car, drive to a park, and shoot people. Is there anything we can do?
The factors that got us to this place are too numerous and complex to delve into here. However, there is a common thread. Our country is increasingly made up of isolated people who feel no ties or bonds with others. Absent these, it becomes easier to see people as property. Items that either benefit (and should be used) or get in the way (and should be disposed). This disposal comes in many forms—though, thankfully, not usually literally. But, whether we cut a person off in traffic or cut down a rival with a gun, the heart is the same. “This person is no use to me and needs to get out of my way.” And, the most vulnerable feel the effects most intently, including children.
So, parents have a huge opportunity. First, we teach their children that they are NOT property but are instead human beings with inherent value and owed deep honor. As we do this, we help our children see other people that way, too. As we build bonds with our children, we give children a place to belong and teach them how to also bond with others. As we create supportive, interdependent, loving communities where people serve and protect each other in our homes—we teach children how to build those communities in other places. The ball field. The neighborhood park. The school lunchroom.
Since we are a couple of generations into this pattern of isolation, many parents feel completely unprepared for this task. They love their children deeply. They want the best for their children. They deeply desire the storybook home—but they have no idea how to create one. It’s ok. While healthy homes come in a huge variety of patterns and styles, a few common threads form the foundation. If you would like help learning these, feel free to email Info@TheResolutionCenterIndy. com or call 317-344-9740. We would be happy to discuss these with you.
As parents ponder what happened in Texas, and in all those other schools and all those other shootings, most often we want to change the world that made those attacks possible. We can. We can go home and love our families. By doing that, we create the bonds that connect people and build communities that change the world.