January tops all months for divorce filings. Many couples hold it together for the sake of children or extended family during the holidays. But, the turn of the calendar brings a desire for a clean break and a new direction. Now what?
The decision to divorce is complicated. Couples face even more complexity when choosing how to resolve issues and build a new life. What does mediation offer?
When was the last time a “one-size-fits-all” clothing worked for you? The choices made in divorce impact the rest of a family’s life. Yet, courts are bound to apply generic guidelines to all cases. No consideration for family traditions. Family dynamics. Treasured family differences. Worse–the parties most affect are pushed to the side of the decision-making triangle.
In the traditional process, the attorneys and judge confer to make decisions, leaving parties as mere consultants to their own lives.
By contrast, mediation puts the parties most affected in the decision-making position.
The parties have access to attorneys for guidance and clarity. But–equipped and supported by the mediator–the parties make the decisions they must live by.
Attorneys are ethically obligated to pursue the best outcome for their clients. Attorneys focused on getting the best financial, parenting, or other outcome for their client often do so by painting the other parent as negatively as possible to improve their client’s standing. Once the divorce is final, parents who’ve been pitted against one another are expected to work cooperatively to raise the children. Many simply can’t.
At The Resolution Center, if children are involved, the goal of every agreement is to create solutions that allow the parents to work together for the best interests of the children. Financial agreements focus on financial security for both households. Parenting plans focus on creating healthy relationships with both parents, maintaining important traditions, and continuing those still-treasured aspects of family life.
The average cost of a wedding is $26,444. The average cost of a divorce in Indiana is $30,000. Once two attorneys, parenting experts, financial advisers, and the courts all begin working–couples quickly lose control over what they must spend to complete the process.
Because the couple composes the central decision-making triangle in mediation, they are able to focus their discussions and decisions to ensure clarity and completeness of agreements without breaking the bank.
For those who decide that the time to divorce has come, mediation offers control, protection, and affordability. A better way to move into a healthier future.